Lots of resounding déjà-vu and display of gratitude echoed in the air when mother’s day was celebrated, but on father’s day, silence! How ungrateful? The fact that we celebrate our mothers at a certain point in time doesn’t signify that all mothers are caring, nurturant and responsible because there are some who are treacherous, irresponsible and nagging-some. Thus, in the same way, we can’t hastily conclude that because Oko refused to pay his son’s fees, then all other fathers are the same.
It is very important that I share some tactics women used and other reasons why most fathers appear to be irresponsible.
1. There is a saying that it’s only women who know the actual father of their children. And of course, they are the type who can flirt under your own roof without you, even smelling a rat. So some men upon verifying their wives moves with other men tend to doubt the paternity of their children and in essence, shun their responsibility. If DNA test was to be compulsory, there is a great possibility that several homes would be teared apart.
2. Also, because men are most often the bread-winners of the home, the pressure to settle unending expenditures break frequent contact with their children, though their actions are geared towards the betterment of the children too. Thus, mothers are usually with the children most of the time. This tendency makes it easy for some mothers, especially the divorced ones to brain-wash the child with all sorts of truthful untruths, and even if they do not do that, the children tend to believe that their mothers are more caring than the fathers. But who works behind the scenes?
3. Moreover, some women make men irresponsible towards their children. Some bombard the men with all sorts of unnecessary expenses ranging from cloth for Auntie Mansa’s outdooring to Mr. Tagoe’s funeral. This puts the men in a difficult position especially those living with the nagging types. In other respects, some half-hearted women snatch married men from their wives and I wonder what they actually show or give to such men that they momentarily become irrational to the extent of even neglecting their children.
I must admit that some fathers are absolutely irresponsible, but let’s a second look to what really makes them irresponsible. We should remember there is no effect without cause. Happy fathers day!
Very Good.
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